Attaining The Impossible
Sexual Attraction
Wishful Thinking
Personal Prophesy

Attaining The Impossible

We all know people who believe that anything wished for strongly enough can be attained. I wouldn't necessarily call these people unrealistic about life. They're basically average, caring people who desperately want something to come true for themselves, and they're willing to sit down and wait for it. Can the impossible be attained? I'm inclined from my experience with the cards to say no. The prophesy of the cards is quite precise when it comes to matters that involve restrictions or limitations that we simply don't have the ability to change.

You can't make something happen through force, manipulation, or even just wishing to make it so unless it already has the potential for becoming reality. When it doesn't, the cards will give you this message over and over: "This desire is not an option. You must make another choice. This plan, this dream, this expectation will never be realized. It simply cannot be."

This is where so many tend to have the most difficulty -- accepting what has been perceived as impossible. They hear the prophesy of the cards, but they refuse to listen and act on it. They continue to pursue relationships and elusive lovers who have no potential for becoming reality whatsoever. What ultimately happens? They find themselves wallowing in misery needlessly. By clinging to something that simply doesn't have the potential to become reality, they turn their backs completely on the genuine, loving relationships the cards offer as real opportunities for lasting future happiness.

Just as you must accept the reality of your situation, you must also accept the reality of your desires. Choose to find the right kind of happiness for yourself, rather than trying to make the impossible happen. With the cards as your guide, you can learn to avoid relationships that will only cost you in terms of suffering and sorrow.

If there is another man or woman standing between you and the person you love; if you are trying to captivate and marry a certain person who has not even met you yet; if you want an old lover to return to your life -- these are not necessarily "impossibilities." It would depend greatly on the circumstances surrounding you at that precise moment in time and the personal inclinations of the other parties involved. One thing is certain, the cards are extremely reliable when it comes to revealing exactly what the future holds in store should you choose to pursue a relationship along these lines, and they will let you know just what your chances really are for succeeding.

Listen to these messages when you get them from the cards. They are important ones as you travel your own personal path to happiness. Impossible dreams are just that -- impossible. Give them a nice, quick mercy killing and simply let these dreams die. You'll be far better off, in the long run, without them.
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Sexual Attraction

While conducting countless readings over the years, I have discovered that most men tend to view their relationships with women on the sexual level initially, while most women are led emotionally at this stage. Therein lies a major problem with most early encounters between the sexes. Males and the females are on two completely different wavelengths, which usually isn't communicated until it's too late. The end result? Males tend to be misunderstood in their pursuit of sexual release, and the women feel misled by the pursuit -- which is, intuitively speaking, a completely avoidable situation.

With careful thought and action, the sexual force perceived in the cards can be put to excellent use in the early stages of these relationships. When you understand this force for exactly what it is -- the drive for sexual gratification -- you won't go wrong. I guarantee it. You will "know" perceptually whether this new relationship is capable of making you happy even as it is only beginning, and as I can vouch from experience, that kind of insight can be priceless.

Sexual attraction is interest as it is perceived on the physical level. It should never be confused with emotion. Karen, a past client of mine, learned the hard way.

Karen, a 37-year old woman who had been married for 17 years, was divorced approximately six months when she came to me. It was a particularly painful divorce -- her husband decided to marry the woman he'd secretly been having an affair with for quite some time. Karen's first reading indicated that she was seeking a permanent relationship. She married the only man she ever dated, and she was having difficulty adapting to the thought of a long-term single life.

Karen's reading revealed that if she continued to go out with her friends to nightclubs and parties after work as she had begun to do, she would meet a particularly attractive man before the month was out, a man who was also divorced but not consciously looking to become involved with any one specific woman. It was perceivable in the cards that this man would find Karen's lack of experience, and subsequent reserve where the opposite sex was concerned, refreshingly charming. The potential was very strong for this man to eventually find himself caring for her rather deeply.

Based on the information revealed in the cards, I advised Karen that she should be aware that while he would appear to be just the man she was looking for, he would basically be drawn to her on a sexual level initially. She should avoid responding to this man -- both emotionally as well as sexually -- until the relationship had the time to develop on a much more meaningful level.

When Karen came for a second reading, she met this man and thought for sure she was in love with him. Again, I strongly advised her against beginning a sexual relationship with him too soon. The reading indicated that he was definitely a man who had tired of the easy sexual involvement that seemed so available in the time since his divorce, and he was actually enjoying Karen for the challenge she represented, sexually and otherwise. I advised her not to express feelings of affection to him until he initiated such a discussion himself, which was clearly evident would occur with the most effective choices made on Karen's part.

In this particular instance, Karen didn't trust the prophesy of the cards. When I saw her a few weeks later, she was crushed. Not only had she acted on sexual impulse, but she told this man that she was falling in love with him. Consequently, she hadn't heard a word from him in the time since. The reading clearly indicated that her relationship with this man was over. His inclinations toward her had changed once his sexual interest had been satisfied, and he did not have intentions of seeing her romantically again.

Can the cards actually differentiate between physical drives and emotional needs in this way? Absolutely. You must always bear in mind that when a reading is conducted, the cards are revealing your hopes, your expectations, your life. They are essentially a mirror reflecting your values and beliefs -- the things that are important to no one but you. The only relevance other people have in your reading is the impact their choices are making on your life -- choices centered on their own personal feelings -- which are visible in this "mirror" as well.

Now, suppose your wish was to marry a particular person who is already married and perceived in the cards as loving his or her spouse. The cards would consistently reflect your continued unhappiness with this situation. The reading would unequivocally let you know that this wish is not going to be realized as you have been wishing it -- the message being that you will only face heartbreak and future suffering if you choose to continue seeking a marriage with this person. The limitation here that makes it impossible for this situation to have the potential to become reality is that the person you wish to marry does not feel the way you do, and there isn't any way you can force him or her to feel otherwise. You, then, have the freedom to accept this situation and the misery it offers, placing yourself at the mercy of this person's choices for him or herself, or you can choose to pursue your own personal happiness by leaving yourself open to the opportunity for that future relationship with someone who will culminate in the marriage you wish for.

What you have just read is a prime example of one of the most important aspects of Personal Prophesy: "This is the ability to choose the best possible options for yourself. To direct your life toward the happiness you desire. And ultimately, to attain it."

Frequently, people act too quickly where sexual interest is concerned when it has been perceived to be to their detriment to do so, or they will try to reap a future from it, finding themselves merely living to regret it. All sorts of these people have come back to me and groaned, "Why didn't you warn me?" That's the important lesson in Personal Prophesy. You have to listen to the message in order to make it work for you. In every one of these cases, the prophesy was there, but unfortunately, the "message" wasn't heeded.

I see sexual attraction as a sword that cuts two ways. It can be used to your best advantage in order to inspire a relationship of substance (or conversely, to let you know that such a relationship is not a possibility), or it can be used against you, causing you to act injudiciously when it really wasn't what you wanted to do at all. Accept this attraction in your readings for what it is: the drive for sexual gratification -- a powerful, self-satisfying force -- and you will have no illusions about its prophesy.
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Wishful Thinking

I have provided intuitive guidance over the years for countless people who all have one major problem in common. In every case, they were madly in love with those who the cards consistently indicated were not true, faithful, caring partners.

These people couldn't seem to understand why they were so miserable, yet the reality of the situation they were in was staring them in the face. The relationships they were pinning all of their hopes and dreams to were not going to succeed, no matter how hard they might try to make it so. The prophesy was there -- it was just a simple case of futile wishful thinking to avoid having to accept the inevitable.

The message of the cards for men and women who are enduring disastrous love relationships will always be the same, even though so few are willing to listen: "Stop clinging to partners who are incapable of making you happy." What is it about the human heart that makes us put so much energy into loving people who are never going to love us back? The cards will show you who is incapable of loving you back. You will also know beyond a shadow of a doubt who can be a faithful partner, deserving of your love -- *if* you listen to the intuitive message in your personal reading.

In order for you to achieve the kind of happiness in love that you hope for, you will have to do one important thing right now: Accept the reality of your situation as it exists this very moment. You must be completely honest with yourself and realize that the cards reflect how things realistically appear and not how you wish they could be.

Wishing is an important part of the card reading process. When you get a reading, you are in essence wishing on the cards for knowledge: to determine how close or how far you actually are from the things you want; whether there are unexpected difficulties ahead that will have to be dealt with; and what circumstances and individuals will be encountered -- all prepared to bring changes to the path you have chosen to happiness.

This kind of wishing is extremely important to your ability to get what you need and desire in love and friendship. Wishful thinking, however, is a grand illusion that what you want to be true is true and ultimately puts you at the mercy of the choices made by the people living their lives around you.

If you tend to find yourself on the losing end of your relationships, now is the time for you to do something about it. By accepting the reality of your situation (which is not to be confused with simply accepting the situation "as is" and living with it, something you don't have to do), you are seeing your life as it really is and taking the first step toward resolution and change -- change that Personal Prophesy will show you is a powerful, creative force when controlled and used properly.

Are you single and lonely? Single and involved in a relationship that is not making you happy, wondering if there might be somebody better for you out there? Perhaps you're married, but spending life with a partner who doesn't satisfy your needs, or you aren't completely sure this is a partner you can really trust? None of these "realities" are permanent, although we have all been conditioned to think of them as such when they're actually happening to us. But remember, life is change, regardless of whether those changes are on a physical, intellectual, or emotional level. The cards will constantly be filled with possibilities for these changes to alter your situation and, consequently, the rest of your life.

The possibilities that are forever present in the cards are definite viable options that you can choose -- or refuse -- at will, putting you in control of what happens to you, giving you confidence, without the need for wishful thinking and other illusionary traps.
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Personal Prophesy

Ask yourself if you are you, in fact, making the most of your love life. If you are currently in a good, solid relationship, my hunch is that you will say, "Yes, I most certainly am making the most of my love life." If you are in a less-than-satisfactory relationship, you're probably thinking, "Well, things could be a lot better, but rather than go back to living without a partner, I'm making the most of what I've got right now -- at least until someone better for me comes along."

And if you are in a terribly unhappy relationship -- or if you are not involved in a romantic relationship at all -- you're probably thinking, "No, I'm not making the most of my love life." What it all boils down to at this particular moment in your life is how you "perceive" your own romantic happiness. Try to answer these questions: Do you see your love life in realistic terms or through the rose-colored glasses of wishful thinking? Can you assess what you see as a genuine fulfillment at a time in your life that needs emotional improvement? Are you actually gravitating toward lasting happiness or stagnating in a relationship that is not going anywhere? You may even, plainly speaking, be floundering like crazy just to feel some sort of happiness for yourself at all.

This is where Personal Prophesy comes in. Because this philosophy is so intensely focused on the intuitive perception of emotions, the cards have the capacity to be extremely clear-cut about where you actually are, emotionally, as you follow your own personal life path toward the future. I'll tell you right now, the cards won't ever lead you down the primrose path of wishful-thinking where your love life is concerned. In terms of the cards, wishful-thinking is a grand illusion that deceives you into believing what you *want* to be true *is* true, and it ultimately puts you at the mercy of the choices being made by those living their lives around you.

The cards prefer to deal with reality rather than fantasy when it comes to love. The cards won't feed your ego, tell you fanciful bedtime stories about your relationships, or give you any sort of false hope about the success of the path you have chosen to take to seek love and happiness. The cards will plainly reveal to you that if you continue to pursue a relationship with a man or woman who does not have the potential to make you truly happy, you will only find yourself brokenhearted and miserable in the end.

The cards will alert you to avoid potential partners who are essentially incapable of fidelity when in committed relationships. They can help you better understand the reasons why a partner has, for instance, suddenly lost heart or is experiencing personal emotional difficulties regarding a relationship. And they can also literally point the way toward those relationships that will make you feel happiest and most complete in the end.

Those who are in good, solid relationships need to remember that their relationships are in fact "living things." Right now, think of your relationship as a precious plant on the windowsill. It is a plant that someone who loves you very much gave you as a gift. Are you going to say, "Well, this is a very nice, healthy plant, and I'm just going to sit over here and think about it once in awhile but not really put any time or energy into taking care of it"? No, of course not. Without attention or tender loving care, that plant will wither and die. Even a good, strong, hearty cactus will eventually keel over and bite the dust. Nothing thrives in an atmosphere of neglect. You can't put that plant on your windowsill and come back three months, six months, or even a year later and find a healthy plant thriving there just because you were "busy" or "preoccupied" and not really focused on taking good care of it for that period of time.

If you have a relationship that is precious to you, do everything possible to make the most of it every single day. Tend it, fortify it, nurture it. Give it all the time and attention you can because, as we are growing from day to day, our relationships are either "thriving" or "dying" in the midst of our own personal growth. They don't remain the same. It's up to each and every one of us to see that our relationships maintain strength and good health as we gravitate and grow toward the future.

If you are in a relationship that isn't what it used to be, ask yourself why this is. Did you stop taking care of this relationship, or is your partner at fault? Has one of you quite naturally outgrown your commitment in this relationship or simply chosen to take a new, solitary path for yourself into the future? There are no guarantees in life, only "promise" in terms of what has yet to come. If you can hold fast to this promise -- the potential for a happy, fulfilling life shared together alive -- you have won half the battle already. When you share the same goal and are deeply committed to it, nothing will ever possess enough power to divide you. Nothing. No temporary lapse in fidelity, no financial problems, nor a lack of passion and intensity will do this.

When both partners are truly committed, they have the power to weather every storm. They will lavish attention on that plant on the windowsill -- and they will tend to it even during the dim days of winter or if it has suddenly fallen to the floor and been bruised.

Some people cannot make the most of their love lives because they simply haven't got one. They need to take a good, hard look at the way they're living their lives in general. Nobody is going to ride up to your door on a white charger to romantically whisk you off for a lifetime of love and happiness unless you happen to be a character in a Disney movie. Even then, your chances might be a little remote. If "Beauty" wouldn't have left the house, for example, would she have met her true love, the "Beast"? I, for one, sincerely doubt it.

Face it; you have to expand your social circle. You've got to consider your friendships with members of the opposite sex as potential romantic partners. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: There is no better foundation in the world for marriage than genuine, honest friendship.

You also have to consider how others perceive the way you "live" your life. If you go out and present yourself as available to anyone who happens to look your way, chances are that real love will be hard to come by. Nobody wants what everybody else can have. Nobody sees sincerity and honesty in someone who falls in "love" every other week. Nobody puts genuine faith in someone who has no faith in themselves.

Making the most of our love lives is essentially centered on making the most of "whom" we are and "where" we are in terms of our life paths and our own individual capacities to love. We are always changing, always becoming. This one fact of life will always be so. But if we can view our loving relationships as doing the same with every breath we take, we will become more empowered in the process of loving and more committed to keeping these relationships alive and thriving. We will be more willing to literally "make the most" of the love lives we have while living right now, in the present. 

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